Blue Happy Living

You never know when something you do will affect someones life. Let’s face it sometimes we run in and out of our day without noticing others most of the time.  I’m so guilty of this one. Also guilty of hearing someones story and smiling as they tell it but not really connecting.  Maybe because I can relate in some way and don’t want to admit it.  Or maybe I’ve never walked their path and don’t understand it.  Doesn’t really matter, when someone opens up to you it’s because they need to be heard and tell their story.  I’ve often said right here on this blog page live in the moment you are standing in.  Don’t miss an opportunity to be a good friend because you can’t relate.  Just be in that moment with them and open your heart to what they are saying to you.  We should never underestimate the power of our friendship to that person.

I’m not one to make a statement on something that is in the news, but I’m gonna step out of my comfort zone.  I’m sure at this point my daughter is reading this and thinking “oh no mom what in the world are you gonna say”. I feel keeping silent about my opinion on this matter is dishonest with you my blog readers.  I’ve heard so many make open remarks about this matter.  I’ve held my opinion in because I didn’t want to make anyone mad. After the Golden Globes I can’t hold it in any longer.  So here goes……..

I’m making this statement from the pit of my heart.  I’m making it for those that are afraid of those that have power over them.  I’m making this statement for me.  It’s nothing more than my opinion.  I’m not in any way saying that if you don’t agree with me you are wrong.  You can have your opinion and I can have mine.  So please no text or emails with nastiness. Sexual assault is WRONG!!! From unwanted touching to full blown sexual acts and anything in between it is wrong.  It has never or will never have a place in the growth of our young women in the world.  How you dress, walk, talk or act is not open permission to assault a girl or women.  If you are a man and you know a women is not in a frame of mind to know what is going on STOP.  You don’t have permission because you want her or your body wants her.  Your level in life doesn’t give you permission to bargain with her for sex.  You are less than a man if you do any of these things.  Cleavage is not an open ticket to any women’s body.  Bottom line is you don’t own us because you think you might have the upper hand.  Someone said and I quote “Oh now they are upset after their careers are made and they have banked all that movie roll money”.  What a stupid thing to say.  Fear is the power  in that moment.  The fear of not being able to do what you have dreamed of, fear of being black balled, the fear of the threat and fear of no one believing you when you tell your story.  FEAR, it controls our heart and head.  Hollywood women have banned together to bring attention to this matter.  Most are truly affected by this matter in their own lives.  There are a few that are just jumping on the band wagon for the attention.  It happens with all heated matters getting attention in the news.  I personally loved the blackout and just because some decided to wear their cleavage showing didn’t in any way make it less of a matter to fight for.  Speaking out with the “ME Too” tag is a great way for those that need to share but are afraid to tell their story.  The more that tell their story the more attention brought to this horrible movement against women.  Now don’t get me wrong I love being a lady in my home to my husband.  I not all Yee haw Women Power.  I love that Greg takes care of me.  I love that Greg leads our home as the man of the house.  I love my biblical beliefs and wouldn’t trade my life for anything.  I DO believe that my body is my body and I make the choice of who touches it and who doesn’t.

Choosing to make this statement wasn’t easy.  My life is one with a past and a life that is full of darkness. I’ve not opened up to many about my past.  I can tell you I’ve over come a lot of things that I wish never had happened.  There has been power in leaning on the hope and faith that someday what I have to say will help other women and young girls.  That someday is coming soon and I’ll tell my story. I have one last thing to say.  I once was a little girl who lived in fear.  Memories from as young as 6 flood my head.  Those memories continue to haunt my life with events well into my teens.  I trusted no one, family, friends, teachers, coaches and many others.   I leave you with one last statement that I’m  not afraid to say…………Me Too again and again and again.