Blue Happy Living

Monday’s are for me the best day of the week. I say that in almost every Monday Blog. I still want this Monday, today to turn out to be a Blue Happy Monday. So I’m gonna rant a bit about what is holding me back. Maybe if I speak my mind I can move on and save the rest of my Monday.

Let me give a brief story for those that are new to the blog. Over the past 4 years I have been on a health journey. I did this to save my life. I was 47 over 300lbs and headed for death, at least that is what my Doctor said. Out of Fear I made drastic changes and drastic choices to avoid death. I’m proud to say that 4 years later I’m healthier than I was in college. So with that all said let me get to my rant. I recently (this past weekend) ran into an old friend, well someone I thought was my friend. She came up behind me and said “Oh my goodness is that you LaTonya”. I turned to see a smiling face, who she is and how I know her isn’t important. Besides you know I’m not a drama person so I don’t give out names if it’s gonna shed bad light on a person even if they deserve it. I said hello and we started to talk. Her first words were “how did you get so slim”? Before I could answer her next words were “I’m so shocked you were the size of a truck”. REALLY you haven’t seen me in years and that’s how you start a conversation. Her next remark set me back “I’m mean I don’t wanna be rude but lets face it you were living on the fat side of life, am I right”. Okay at this point I really hadn’t got to say much because she kept running her mouth. My head was thinking if you didn’t mean to be rude why did you say that? Finally, I spoke up and told her I had Bariatric Surgery. She took one step back and said “oh you are one of the cheaters, oh girl you’ll get fat again all the cheaters of surgery do”. At this point I was so done and wanted to walk away but I felt the need to defend myself. After all she has no idea how hard I have worked. Everyday I’m motivated by the hard cold facts that only 5% of people who have this surgery succeed. I’m aware of the low percent of people who don’t finish out life at goal weight. Clearly she doesn’t know me, because if she did she would know that I’m a fighter. I’m a person that when I was told success was only 5% I used it to fuel me not bring me down. I enlightened her on how hard I had worked physically, mentally and spiritually. She said “well that’s so great but you can’t do that the rest of your life, I give you 5 years”. I quickly said I have to go and walked away. I hope to never see her again. NO I take that back, I hope I see her every 5 years until I die so she can see I made it, I was one of the 5%.

So there is my rant! Why in the world would you say those things out loud to anyone. I’m puzzled by people who purposely go out and hurt people in any way with weapons, words or lack of love. It’s just mean and this is what is wrong in the world. We have stopped building each other up. The new norm is to yank the rug out from under people so the they fall and are laughed at by others. We are haters of people who are different, don’t believe the way we do and haters of people who have success. My dad, rest his soul would point out people who were successful and say watch that person learn from them. We don’t do that anymore we peer at them with hate and think well I’ll bet they cheated their way to the top. Okay I guess I started to rant again. I know we all aren’t like that, but gee wiz why do some people do this. Today change starts with one, then two and so on and so on. It’s hard sometimes when you have to be around negative people. It’s hard to keep your head up but try because we can’t let these negative people beat us down.

I hope that your Monday can be Blue Happy and I’m gonna recover mine by thinking Blue Happy thoughts as I paint in my studio. Pray hard people, for those that don’t have love in their hearts. Make today happy for someone with a compliment or a simple smile.  I promise, it will make you feel amazing and they will be uplifted by your love.